Deceptive Seduction: Make Someone Fall in Love with You

I can imagine what you’re thinking right now: you can’t make someone fall in love with you! Isn’t that up to fate, the universe, magic, or Chris Harrison on The Bachelor? Well, ladies and gentlemen, I am not a magic genie, but I do have a few tricks that will significantly increase the odds to make someone fall in love with you.

Let’s start with a few scenarios to give you a better idea of what I’m talking about. We will use the name Marsha for the heck of it.

Scenario #1

Marsha is a desperate, single woman looking for love in all the wrong places. Her go-to spot is a local bar where she has now become extremely familiar with all the waitresses and bartenders.

As usual, her search for the perfect man is as desolate as her empty glass of tequila.

Nevertheless, she keeps partying at the bar every Saturday night in hopes of meeting the perfect man. (Probably not the best place to look for love but she lives in a small town.)

To boost the odds of finding Mr. Right, Marsha dolls up in her tight acrylic V-neck sweater along with her overly padded Victoria Secret pushup bra.

Once Marsha spots a good-looking guy at the bar, she knocks back a few drinks for extra courage and stumbles over to introduce herself.

With no forethought she blurts out, “Hey there, my name is Marsha, how is your night going?” The poor guy hardly gets a chance to reply before Marsha feels the need to tell him about her loser ex-boyfriend and all the horrible things he did to her.

There’s no way he can keep up with her blabbering. Eventually, the guy starts scrolling through Facebook as he ponders over an escape plan. The only thing keeping his attention is the body- hugging sweater that Marsha keeps tugging on.

Finally, he can’t stomach one more cringy minute of the torturous conversation. He quickly jumps up and tells Marsha he needs to use the restroom.

Marsha waits for the man to return but he never comes back. Feeling incredibly disappointed, she stays at the bar and orders another margarita.

Meanwhile, the man disappears into the dark crowded bar and finds a new table of friends to enjoy the night with. He finally feels safe from Marsha’s never ending blabbering but the tight sweater almost had him hooked.

For the next hour, Marsha is obsessed with looking at the man who got away. She feels like a stalker but continues to stare at him.

He’s now too busy flirting with a gorgeous tall blonde to even acknowledge Marsha’s presence.

Marsha eventually leaves the bar. Another failed attempt at love.

Scenario #2

Marsha has been invited to join a group of friends at the local bar in town. She’s never been there before but decides it’s a good time to dig out her high heels and the little black dress she’s been dying to wear.

Before sharing a drink with her friends, Marsha spots a nice-looking man across the room. Her girlfriends begin encouraging her to “brave up” and introduce herself to the tall dark-haired handsome stranger.

Marsha suddenly recalls an amazing video she watched by Dan O’Connor. She is now prepared to take the next step and approach the man.

So, here’s what Marsha does.

Marsha stands up with her shoulders back and chest slightly out. Her sparkling black high heels begin moving her towards the hot man sitting alone at the bar.

She shakes the man’s hand and sweetly says, “Hi I’m Marsha, what’s your name?” She looks confident and her body language is showing him she’s very interested.

The man flashes a big smile at Marsha and tells her his name. He is instantly intrigued by her bold introduction.

Then she says, “Are you having a good time?” He answers, “Yes I am,” and repeats the question back to her.

Marsha replies, “Yes, and I noticed you sitting over here earlier and wanted to come to say hi to you.”

The man mentions he hasn’t noticed her before at the bar, and Marsha says, “I’m new here.”

A little chit chat happens for the next few minutes. The man talks and Marsha listens intently while staring into his chestnut brown eyes.

Before the conversation goes any further Marsha pulls out a little card from her purse. She already has her phone number written on the card (just in case) and hands it to the man.

Next, she leans in and says with a little smile, “I’m so glad I got to talk to you, here’s my phone number. Maybe we will see each other again sometime.”

The handsome man happily takes the card from Marsha and watches her walk away.

Marsha now has a little smirk on her face because she is feeling on top of the world.

Meanwhile, the man cannot believe Marsha walked off so fast. That wasn’t enough time for him. He wants more of Marsha now.

As soon as Marsha sits down with her girlfriends, the man finds himself staring in her direction. He can’t fight the urge to take a look. It’s almost as if he’s hypnotized by her.

Within a few seconds, Marsha is also peering across the room in the direction of her future Romeo. She spots him looking at her and she flashes a sexy little nod to say, “I see you over there.”

After the night is over Marsha is home relaxing in her silk nightgown preparing for bed; suddenly, her phone rings!

Guess who it is?

The man from the bar didn’t waste any time giving her a call.

Tips for Making Someone Fall in Love With You

In the first scenario, Marsha screwed up big time. She got sloppy drunk and talked entirely too much. However, the second scenario was a major improvement.

Remember these tips!

Don’t be somewhere all the time! Keep yourself a mystery. Remember how Marsha kept visiting the same bar every Saturday night in the first scenario? That made her look boring and too predictable. In the second scenario, she was much more mysterious and exciting.

Pay attention to your body! According to some studies, over 55% of communication is nonverbal. Remember to focus on good eye contact and pay attention to your posture. Position your body towards the person you’re interested in (face your head, torso, and legs in their direction.)

Introduce yourself with confidence! In scenario #2 Marsha gets it right. She says, “Hi, I’m Marsha.”

Sounds better than saying, “Hi, my name is Marsha.” Much more appealing and not so third-grade like.

Don’t be too pushy!

Ask close-ended questions to begin the conversation. This is not a job interview. You want to keep it short and sweet. Here are a few examples to start with:

Are you having fun?

Is this your first time here?

Walk away! Leave the person wanting more! Remember how Marsha spent only a few minutes talking with the man during scenario #2? This reminds me of how we feel after taking a small bite of chocolate cake. One bite is so tantalizing that we can’t help but go back for a second taste.

Lingering Look! This may be one of my favorite tips from Dan O’Connor!

You are going to make “sticky eyes” with the person (once you know they are interested.) So, from across the room catch their eye and hold hold hold that look.

They will now feel as if they drank a whole bottle of love potion #9 but technically it’s the natural love chemical dopamine filling their brain with a euphoric love spell.

Watch this video that Dan O’Connor made. He explains how to master this particular technique. It’s worth the watch!

My Final Thoughts

These tips may sound easy, but they are not always so simple to pull off when you’re anxiously introducing yourself to a new person.

A very important tip to remember: If for whatever reason you get rejected, then move along to the next person. Do not obsess over someone that did not show interest. You will come across as desperate if you keep chasing after them.

There is nothing more attractive than someone who doesn’t need you. When you act as if you could care less about being rejected, the person who rejected you may begin to think, “Hmm, maybe I should have given them a chance.”

Whatever you do, keep practicing and eventually your Mr. Right or Ms. Right will come along.

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